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"Analyzing sexual harassment within a framework of gender-perspective misunderstands the underlying nature of harassment itself.
Examined as a power play, the purportedly well-intentioned male to female / supervisor to subordinate “compliment” is not a compliment at all. The true message is not that the object of the comment is a beautiful woman, but that the object is not in control… The comments are intended to notify her that her separate status as a female has not been forgotten and that she is unlike those around her. The boss, presumably busy with other duties, has not taken the time to visit her and praise her good work, her superior skill. Instead he has made it a point to notice her physical attributes and ensure that she understand she has been placed within the confines of her body.

- Kathleen A. Kenealy, Sexual Harassment and the Reasonable Woman Standard


The law on women’s situation produced in this way views women’s situation from the standpoint of male dominance. It assumes that the conditions that pertain among men on the basis of sex—consent to sex, comparative privacy, voice in moral discourse, and political equality on the basis of gender—apply to women.

Rape law assumes that consent to sex is as real for women as it is for men. Privacy law assumes that women in private have the same privacy men do. Obscenity law assumes that women have the access to speech men have. Equality law assumes that women are already socially equal to men.



Catharine A. MacKinnon, The Liberal State 

Probably the best reading I’ve ever had in law school.

I absolutely hate it when married people are introduced as “Mr. and Mrs. [husband’s first name] [husband’s last name].”

It reeks of patriarchy. This isn’t the Victorian Era. A woman doesn’t lose her identity when she gets married. And under this standard, how would you introduce a same-sex couple? 

Fifty Shades of Grey was definitely written by a middle-aged woman.

  • Nobody my age says “shall” or “fire up the email program.”
  • It’s extremely rare for a female my age to have a bush. Trim, wax, shave, come on now. This isn’t an 80’s porn. So what she was a virgin, pretty sure most girls started maintenance the first summer they started getting pubes. [EDIT: I bring it up because she spends so much time shaving her legs and pits before seeing him, and not having a bush is a big enough deal for the guy to have waxing in his contract with her. Plus, she acts like she’s scared of it. “Down there,” come on.]
  • NOBODY MY AGE DOESN’T HAVE A COMPUTER OR EMAIL ACCOUNT—especially people who go to college! 
  • Who the fuck talks about their “inner goddess” or “subconscious self”?
  • What kind of college senior has never been drunk before? Or talks about getting drunk like it’s some scandalous thing?
  • Why is it so embarrassing to ask if someone’s gay? She acts like it’s some taboo. 
  • Even my conservative friends are more liberated than Ana. Jesus Christ girl, stop convincing yourself that you’re into having no bodily autonomy just to get the guy. 

EDIT: Also, not an American! 

  • There are no valedictorians in college.
  • Everyone wears the same color gown in college, they don’t separate by gender.
  • Nobody here says “I’ll fetch it.”
  • Nobody says “my sex” in reference to their pussy. 

Trailer for Harmless, the Christian anti-masturbation movie, inspired by Paranormal Activity

A ghostly virgin bride haunts a father and son after they both succumb to every man’s Achilles’ heel: female sexuality, which only exists in pornography. 

The comments on YouTube are pretty good. 

He had me at “I’m a feminist.”

I’m very happy to say the boy cares just as much about gender equality I do. 

Call me a nerd, but I totally swoon when he gets pissed about anti-women bullshit, or sends me articles he just read on Jezebel. 

Finally, I found a guy who gets it. 

I’m so sick of hearing about how it’s hard to balance motherhood and a career.

What about fatherhood and a career? 

Oh, that’s right, this is a patriarchal society.

I’m sick of moms feeding the idea that their job is supposed to be harder than their husbands’. 

If there are two parents in a household, there is no reason a mother should have a special burden. 

Top 10 Facts About The Wage Gap

1. In 2010 women who worked full time, year round, still only earned 77 percent of what men earned. The median earnings for women were $36,931 compared to $47,715 for men, and neither real median earnings nor the female-to-male earnings ratio have increased since 2009.

2. The gender wage gap does not only affect individuals—entire families are impacted by women’s earnings. In 2010, in nearly two-thirds of families (63.9 percent), a mother was either the breadwinner—either a single working mother or bringing home as much or more than her husband—or a co-breadwinner—bringing home at least a quarter of the family’s earnings. When women’s wages are lowered due to gender discrimination, their families’ incomes are often significantly lowered as well.

3. Women earn less than men within all racial and ethnic groups. In 2010, the latest year for which data are available, white women earned 78.1 percent compared to white men, African American women earned 89.8 percent compared to black men, Hispanic women earned 91.3 percent compared to Hispanic men, and Asian women earned 79.7 percent compared to Asian men. The wage gap is lower for black and Hispanic women in part because wages for people of color tend to be lower overall. This gap occurs within racial/ethnic groups as well. In 2010, according to the Census Bureau, African Americans earned only 58.7 percent of what whites earned, while Hispanics earned only 69.1 percent of what whites earned.

4. Even though women are outpacing men in getting college degrees that’s not enough to close the gender pay gap. The American Association of University Womentackled the pay gap question by looking at workers of the same educational attainment—same kind of college, same grades—holding the same kinds of jobs, and having made the same choices about marriage and number of kids. They found that college-educated women earn 5 percent less the first year out of school than their male peers. Ten years later, even if they keep working on par with those men, the women earn 12 percent less.

5. Women are more likely to work in low-wage, “pink-collar” jobs such as teaching, child care, nursing, cleaning, and waitressing. The top 10 jobs held by women include: secretaries and administrative assistants (number one); elementary and middle-school teachers (number four); retail salespeople (number six); and maids and housekeepers (number 10). These jobs typically pay less than male-dominated jobs and are fueling the gender wage gap. These are also the “jobs of the future,” the kinds of jobs that the Department of Labor projects will grow faster than other occupations, so addressing the pay gap here will have long-term consequences.

6. The wage gap accumulates over time. Over a 40-year working career, the average woman loses $431,000 as the result of the wage gap. The pay gap accumulates in no small part because initial pay matters: If a woman earns less in her first job, when she takes a new job and her new employer sets her pay scale, they will often base it on her pay history. The lifetime wage gap for a woman who did not finish high school is $300,000, while the lifetime wage gap for a woman with at least a bachelor’s degree is $723,000. Making sure that young women understand the importance of negotiating for good pay from day one should be a pressing policy concern and is included in the Paycheck Fairness Act.

7. As women age the wage gap continues to grow. For working women between the ages of 25 to 29, the annual wage gap is $1,702. In the last five years before retirement, however, the annual wage gap jumps to $14,352.

8. Single women are even more adversely affected by the wage gap than married women. Single women earn only 78.8 percent of what married women earn, and only 57 cents for every dollar that married males earn.

9. More than 40 percent of the wage gap cannot be explained by occupation, work experience, race, or union membership. More than one-quarter of the wage gap is due to the different jobs that men and women hold, and about 10 percent is due to the fact that women are more likely to leave the workforce to provide unpaid care to family members. But even when controlling for gender and racial differences, 41 percent is “unexplainable by measureable factors.” Even if women and men have the same background, the wage gap still exists, highlighting the fact that part of the discrepancy can be attributed to gender-based pay discrimination.

10. Mothers earn about 7 percent less per child than childless women. For women under 35 years of age, the wage gap between mothers and women without childrenis greater than the gap between women and men.

Shit Men Say to Men who say Shit to Women

Happy International Women’s Day! Thanks to feminists, today…

  • I can vote, 
  • I’m not my father’s property, and I won’t become my husband’s property when I get married, 
  • My property does not become my husband’s when I get married,
  • I don’t need my husband’s permission to open a bank account,
  • My husband cannot legally rape me,
  • My rapist will (in most states) still be convicted even if I don’t show evidence that I fought back,
  • I can use birth control pills even though I’m not married, 
  • I have the right to privacy when I’m pregnant and I have the right to chose when I will have children, 
  • I can’t be discriminated against employment for being a woman or for being pregnant,
  • I have equal access to public schools and I can join the military,
  • Sexual harassment is considered discrimination,
  • I have the right to be paid the same as a man (though this is still not equal), and I can sue for pay discrimination…

Gender equality still has a very long way to go, but it’s come very far (at least for Americans), especially in the past 50 years!

Ironically, my school just sent out a diversity/inclusiveness survey…

At the end, it asked for comments. This is my rant:

I never realized how sexist the world still is until I started school here. I have experienced sexual harassment many times in my life, but never before from classmates. I wonder if it’s the nature of this profession that tends to draw sexist men. Since I started in August, I have experienced both verbal and physical sexual harassment from more than a handful of male law students, and I know I am not the only female to have experienced this.

What’s more, I am not the only female who has the feeling that many of the male students are of the mindset that if a female merely talks to him, she wants to have sex with him. I can think of at least five times that I’ve been talking to a male law student in a strictly platonic way, showing no interest, speaking on neutral topics, and eventually he has hit on me, said something suggestive, tried to get me to go home with him, tried to kiss me, grabbed me, etc. I feel that the only way I might be left alone is if I start wearing a wedding ring. The fact I am not interested/seeing someone does not stop these men from crossing boundaries. 

It’s to the point that I no longer feel comfortable around many of my male classmates, and I have started to avoid school functions. 

I have also noticed a substantial number of my male classmates have rather misogynistic viewpoints. Whether they realize it or not, their worldview is one that either is neutral to or celebrates the patriarchal status quo. Here are some examples of what male classmates have said to me: “My wife has a master’s degree but I’d want her to stay home once she has kids since I’ll be making more money.” “You’re in law school? I thought you were [male classmate’s] boyfriend.” “You better marry rich if you go into public interest.”

An overwhelming number of my male classmates’ behavior is totally disrespectful and unprofessional. Often, I feel that before I am labeled a colleague, I am labeled a woman (i.e. weaker, less capable, an object for sexual gratification, etc). It horrifies me that my own peers act as though it’s still 1970 when roughly half of law students today are female. The numbers would suggest an egalitarian environment, however that has not been my experience, and I am not the exception. 

J Babes on my last post:

  • JB: I think you should mention how I dont like men being called feminists.
  • me: Yeah?
  • JB: How that's just what guys should be. Calling a guy a feminist is wrong.
  • me: I know guys who call themselves feminists.
  • JB: A "feminist" guy is what a normal guy should be considered, but because guys are now supposed to be dicks and treat everyone like shit, now the nice guys have to be labeled as something. I'm just a guy. I'm what a guy should be. I love and respect women. I treat them as equals. That's a man. A guy who treats women like shit is just that, he is not a man.

I hope someday I can stop calling myself a feminist.

I wouldn’t be some amusing anomaly, like the token conservative or communist friend.

Because everyone would be a feminist.

Men wouldn’t balk at the word, because they would be feminists.

Sexism, misogyny, and patriarchy would offend everyone.

Mothers and fathers would both be expected to be good, involved parents. 

Maternity and paternity leave would be the norm.

Media wouldn’t hyper-sexualize women.

Women wouldn’t have to work doubly-hard just to be put on par with the average man.

High-powered , high-ranking women wouldn’t be called bitches. 

Women wouldn’t need to assimilate to male-dominiated workplaces. 

Women wouldn’t worry about whether to wear pant or skirt-suits, or open-toed shoes, or their hair long or short or up or down, or wedding ring or no-wedding ring.

Nobody would assume the man in the marriage makes more money, or that he’s emasculated when he makes less.

Female sexuality would be considered as healthy and normal as male sexuality.

A girl would lose nothing when she has sex for the first time.

Women wouldn’t be reduced to virgins and sluts.

Men wouldn’t be excused for objectifying women. The statement “He can’t help himself when you do that/dress that way/etc.” would be erroneous.

Women wouldn’t need self-defense classes or pepper spray.

Women wouldn’t have to say “stop” because “no” would be enough.

sexual harassment

Last night, I was out for a benefit dinner for school. I was the recipient of unwelcome sexual advances (attempted kisses, grabbing) from two classmates.

Since the beginning of the school year, at least a handful of my male classmates have done something like this to me. In my life, it’s happened more times than I can count.

I told J about what happened and he’s ready to kill those guys. 

What upsets me most is that I didn’t think much of it until J’s reaction. I’ve been sexually harassed so many times that it’s wearing me down. I almost expect it to happen. I’ve accepted that I cannot trust men. I’ve become desensitized.

And when it happens, there’s very little I can do about it. ‘Blaming the victim’ is a very real problem. When I have asked for help, I’ve been told I’m overreacting, at fault because I ‘gave him the wrong idea’, am being dramatic, that it’s not a big deal, that I should like it, that I should be flattered, that it’s just the downside of being pretty, that I’ll miss it when I’m older, that I should shut up because it’s someone I have to go to school with for three years, that I should shut up because it would make him look bad, that I’m too friendly, that I’m a bitch.

I avoid school functions. I avoid certain people. I don’t leave home without mace. I think twice before going outside alone at night. I’m getting colder and harder. 

It’s misogynistic. It’s common. It’s depressing. It’s dehumanizing.